By Ferrin Blaire The first step in rewriting your story is to stop feeling sorry for yourself. Look in the mirror and remember who the hell you are. Not who heartbreak tried to convince you to become. Not what being in survival mode transformed you into. Not the exhausted, overwhelmed, burned-out version of yourself, life gradually drained from you. Whatever it takes to reconnect with YOU, we’re going to start there. A new haircut. A new outfit. Light a candle. Take the trip.